Here is a copy of a blog post I just wrote over on Disaboom.com. Look me up as “JesterCMK” over there:
I am 42. I have always had CP. I have never walked as an actual means of transportation. I have always used some sort of wheelchair preferring powered scooters since 1981. So, yeah, maybe life hasn’t been terribly easy, but I still went to school, graduated college, got into radio broadcasting, switched to computers and web accessbility for the past 14 years, got married (and divorced), got married again, own my own house, and am raising 4 kids. There are difficulties related to my CP in accomplishing all of these things, but all are things I can get around with a bit of creativity, technology, or a friend or loved one’s assistance. CP hasn’t stopped me.
And, I still think things have not been that hard besides being a quad. Why? My only disability is my visible one. The CP never got me from the neck up so I talk (constantly). And, while I’m no genius, I have no learning disabilities that I know of. No communication issues and no hidden issues. I have for a long time maintained that if you can read, write, and talk, you can manage our society, be successful, get a job, have a family, etc. But, in our world, if you cannot hear or speak, if you cannot read, or if you learn in a diferent way, society will be filled with barriers to you. If I had a speech impairment to go with my CP, I would be treated much differently. I’m convinced of it.
Joelle Browner recently wrote an op-ed piece for “The Olympian Online” entitled Cruelty less likely to those with visible disabilities where she eloquently tells the story of a man with learning disabilities who struggles with success and acceptance due to stigmas associated with his impairments. I recommend it as a prime example of how hidden disabilities carry stigmas as damaging as any other prejudices in our society.